I’m sure I’ve harped on about this before but why do people still persist in thinking penetrative sex is the only form of sex that really ~counts? This prompted by a BBC article about women for whom penetrative sex is painful. If it’s painful, your partner really shouldn’t be pressuring you into doing it! There are other things you can do if you want to, but as a partner you should not be there as a sexual service. Sex shouldn’t be an inescapable cornerstone of a romantic or long-term relationship, like an inevitable chore like putting the bins out. You don’t have to do it just cos you’re married or w/e. I hate this elevation of sex into something that’s SO important that if you don’t have enough of it, or the right kind of it, you’re a wimp or a prude or just plain broken. The pressure to have (and love having) lots of sex clearly causes problems for a lot of people, and it really shouldn’t be that way. Have it if you want, don’t if you don’t, and just chill tf out about it. It should not be the biggest deal imaginable, and certainly not to the extent that it causes people severe anxiety, depression, breakdowns, relationship break ups and emotional or psychological damage.